Surviving the Christmas Holidays with 4 little Ones

I am not going to lie, I was sort of worried about this holiday, I love Christmas don't get me wrong but that's 3 days out of 15.  Looking after 4 Children alone as a single parent is hard, much harder that it probably looks on the outside.  I mean bedtime I feel like i'm trying to put 4 actual Monkeys to bed.

Yesterday I made a decision, I decided that my anxiety over this is not going to ruin this holiday, ruin Christmas as its a strange Christmas as it is, being with someone 11 years, having 4 Children with them to then become a single mum and Christmas is not the same.  But it doesn't mean its going to be worse, in fact I know its going to be better.

Christmas is about being around family and friends that care about you and you care about them, its a time for giving and receiving, being grateful for those people in your life.  I know my Children are going to have a magical Christmas because I am going to give that to them.  Everything I do is for them.

I also decided that I had to change my mindset from negative to positive, I am a big believer in positive thinking, luckily I snapped myself out of that thinking.  So instead of thinking how hard my days were going to be I decided to think how I could make the days fun for all of us.

I want to share how my holidays are going and what we have been up too.

Today I took the Children to a local play cafe where I can have a coffee and chat with my friend whilst the Children get to play!  Isaac has got to the stage of crawling around with the others and they love it.

Here is Isaac today :)

Victoria x

I was stronger than I thought- Becoming a Single Mum of 4

I started to write down my story of how it all happened how I became a single mum of 4.  Yes it was a horrible difficult time but its not going to help me or anyone else.

What I do know is that I am a Very Strong Person, I made the decision to change my path in life, I made a decision that I was worthy of more, I deserved someone by my side that truely loves me.  If I didn't make that choice I wouldn't be where I am today.

I have 4 young Children aged, 6,4,3 and 11 months and 5 Months ago I became a single mum, my life is hectic, hard at times as children are demanding but my life is so much better, I can actually see a future now and its going to be Amazing.

One thing that has amazed me is how strong I have been, from making that decision to end a 11 year old relationship, and not know if I will meet someone that would take on 4 Children( as that what I had drilled into me by my ex partner) but I didnt care I thought I would rather be single that be treated like rubbish.

Now I am a stronger person for it, i have a wobble here and there but I soon pick myself back up.

What is Amazing is that the future is bright, I get to be secure, I have 4 Happy Children and I have the opportunity to meet the Man for me.

I wanted to share this because I was once someone that was scared to make that decision, I didn't think I could cope on my own but I can and I am.